Madonna Takes Her Custody Battle Public
Madonna’s recent tweet has caused quite a stir.
“It’s possible to be an entertainer and a good mother!!! Too bad we don’t live in a society where many encourage strong independent single working Moms! The next great Frontier ❤ #revolutionoflovecontinues #rebelheart4ever”
Madonna is not the first person nor the last to attempt to sway the courts and public opinions in personal matters during times of conflict. And social media platforms have provided more opportunities to do just that.
We see this public airing of grievances at times of relationship conflict as the latest challenge to relationships and relationship reconciliation.
To be proactive and avoid undoing the work you do with your couples, help the couples set ground rules for their social media use and avoid those careless or hurtful social media posts from occurring. We recommend that you get a clear understanding of how each person uses social media when you begin working with them so that you can foresee areas of challenge in this matter.
Here are some suggestions for social media users from Pamela Rutledge, Ph.D., M.B.A., Director of the Media Psychology Center and the faculty in media psychology program at Fielding Graduate University.
- Identify your larger goals
- Evaluate your social media use and determine if it’s helping you meet those goals
- Remember you are the boss of technology, not the other way around
- Take a break from time to time and remember what it feels like to be unplugged
According to the Pew Research Center study Couples, the Internet, and Social Media (Feb 11, 2014) 74% of couples reported that internet use had a positive impact on their relationship while 20% said it had a mostly negative effect.
Technology causing tension:
- 25% of cell phone owners in a marriage or partnership have felt their spouse or partner was distracted by their cell phone when they were together
- 8% of internet users in a committed relationship have had an argument with their spouse or partner about the amount of time one of them was spending online
- 4% of internet users in a committed relationship have gotten upset at something that they found out their spouse or partner was doing online